Hello Beautiful People!
It's a gorgeous
Wednesday afternoon and i felt really compelled to reach out and share
something with you... something that i'm absolutely positive quite a number of
us have experienced at some point or another.
CLOSURE!!!
Yep!
Now, personally i have
more than enough stories to give pertaining to this but i thought to do a
little research and i came up with a lot of interesting stuff.
First off, let me define closure...
- An act or process of closing something... or of being closed (obviously)
Now to the interesting stuff i found which is the basis for this post...
- To attempt to "move on" following the termination of a relationship with another individual.
- A word used by overly-emotional , self-centered "drama queens" ...mostly women (says who?)
- A word created during the 90's which was borne out of individuals unable to cope with relationship failure.
- Individuals using this word insinuate that the more stable party is responsible for all of the "closured" individual's problems... including the war in Iraq, airbag safety issues, PMS, bad hair days...etc...
I truly had a good laugh reading this!
But honestly, take away all the drama, closure just simply describes an individual's desire for a firm answer and an aversion toward ambiguity.
In these times, there is a lot of vagueness to relationships. These are the days where you hear phrases such as "Let's see where this goes"...which begs the eventual question " What are we doing?"
Interestingly, this concept isn't exclusively for love relationships. Perhaps you have a friend...or even a family member who really hurt you or said some nasty stuff about you and you just can't shake it off. You're still waiting... waiting for an apology that may never come. It could also have been a bad breakup... and you're waiting... waiting for that moment when they realize that they've lost a good thing. Oh! I've been there, done that, and got a t shirt to show for it.
Truth is, you can never begin the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one. I think the people who manufacture cars are really very smart. They made a rear view mirror so that once in a while, you can take a quick glance at what's behind but they also made the very big wind shield for you to keep looking ahead.
A very wise man said, if you keep looking at the rear view mirror while driving, you're an accident going somewhere to happen!
I've only got one word for ya...
MOVE ON!!!
sorry...that was two words...lol
When you get to the point where you can make the decision to close that door with or without the apology or affirmative answer...and wishing them well...then you have truly moved on. Until then, they still got a hold on you and let's face it, no one is worth is that.
Life goes on. Take the occasional glance behind to see how far you have come and be grateful for the things you learned... take a deep breath, filling your heart with so much expectation of what lies ahead... walk!
It is that simple.
May not be easy, but very simple.
That seemingly sad goodbye will lead you straight right into a beautiful hello, i promise you'll see.
